Peace is one of the most difficult needs to explain to another, for people in general do not understand peace. People who do not understand peace, seek refuge in noise – the noise of crowds and relationships. Such people who do not understand others’ need for peace will never understand the concepts of privacy, space and calmness.
Why do unpeaceful people not understand peace? For their souls are filled with suffering and noise. The only way they can drown out their own noise is by clanging objects and people around them. One who has terrific noise within, can only achieve silence by creating a greater noise outside his mind to distract him or her. It is best to never form a relationship with such people, for their noise within will create noise within you as well.
Thus, you realize that the only way to be ‘happy’ is to have peace. Peace is the subtext of all happiness, sorrows, ups and downs of life. We do not desire happiness for that is merely a fleeting high. We do not desire freedom from sadness, for every time you try something, you will either get what you want or not- which will either make you happy or unhappy. This is natural.
Thus, we replace:
Achieving Happiness and Sadness, with
Wanting something, getting it or not getting it,
Accepting what we get, and accepting that we may not get everything,
This acceptance is peace.
Those who aim at happiness or only achievement live a half-life, and never truly accept both sides of the coin above. Their half-life results in deep un-peace. Their un-peace translates into our suffering. The question we need to ask such people is: “Why are you not at peace with the way I live my life?”
Their answer will most likely create more noise and suffering within themselves and within you.
When you try to explain peace, unpeaceful people cannot understand it, for peace cannot be explained, only experienced. Peace only has a negative definition, not a positive one – peace is the absence of noise.
Happiness, on the other hand, has a positive definition – it involves goals to achieve, things to do, places to see, people to meet. But peace underlies the success or failure of these events. If you succeed in finding what you want, you will be happy and at peace. If you fail in achieving what you desire, you will be sad, but very much again at peace.
Peace is the constant beneath it all. Peace is silence. Peace is nothingness. Nothingness can only ever be explained by the absence of ‘things’. The absence of sadness is peace, The absence of happiness is also peace.
Once you pursue peace as your overarching goal, every other aspect of your life falls into place and begins to make sense.
- You need boundaries to achieve peace
- You need to give up the concept of right and wrong to achieve peace
- You need privacy to achieve peace
- You need truth to achieve peace
- You need silence to achieve peace
- You need financial independence, but not necessarily riches, to achieve peace
- You need contentment to achieve peace
- You need a spiritual backbone to achieve peace
- You need emotional intelligence to achieve peace
- You need to die internally (ego, false self) to achieve peace
- You need to accept bodily death to achieve living peace
- You need to accept others’ lives and life paths to achieve peace
- You need to respect others’ boundaries to achieve peace
- You need to respect others’ privacy to achieve peace
- You need to help others achieve peace, if required, to achieve your own peace
- You need to make peace with the fact that others may never understand you
- You need to make peace with the fact that others may never find peace
- You need to make peace with the fact that you may be alone (but not lonely) in your peace
- You need to make peace with the fact that some relationships may fall away as you seek peace
- You need to be alert to relationships that can teach you more about peace
In the end, you will find yourself making peace with the last frontier, all forms of noise and un-peace.